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THE GAY DIVORCEE

posted May 6, 2010, 8:31 PM by Layne Lawless   [ updated May 6, 2010, 8:35 PM ]

Friday, April 06, 2007

What's all this clamor I hear from gays wanting marriage? I just don't get it. Do they also want divorce, alimony, child support, and family court trials? I can hardly wait to be *just like* heterosexuals! If we become just like them, will that then make us good enough to be accepted?

I remember when I came out in 1969 (no, that is the actual year, not a joke!) the emphasis was on self-acceptance, and we were just struggling to find our identity in an often hostile society, never mind worrying about being "just as good as..." We fought labels such as butch and femme, and now gays seem to embrace them! Am I showing my age? I just don't get it.

Many years ago, as a teenager, I would have voted for Barry Goldwater for President. At that time, the Civil Rights Act was being passed by Congress. Even then I understood that you cannot legislate morality. (Of course, I did not understand how badly black ppl were treated in the South!) But I still think you cannot FORCE ppl to accept any given group.

Here we are, 37 years later, 33 years after the American Psychological and Psychiatric Assns. declared that homosexuality is not, in and of itself, a mental disorder, and we still have bigoted ppl spouting Bible quotes which they claim "prove" we are perverts, sick puppies, abnormal, immoral, etc. Yet overall, societal acceptance of gays has improved.

The Gay Left is still not happy. A better question should be: Is the Left ever happy with anything? Being able to lead a free life, to associate with others of our own group, to live with relative peace and privacy is still not enough for our "leaders." No, they scream, we still want to be able to get "married." What a crock of shit. I don't need a piece of paper from the government to prove I'm OK, or that I have rights. What's the matter with these gays? Why can't they just "live in sin" like all the straights do now? What's the matter with that? You get together because you want to be, and when you don't, you just split--no laws, no court, no papers. What's the matter with that?

No, I think that there is an incredible amount of self-loathing and a pathetic, dog-like yearning for acceptance within the gay community. "Oh please," the gay puppies plead, as they crawl on their bellies to the straights, "please accept us, so we can be just as good as you!" Considering the amount of drug and alcohol abuse, and suicidal risky sexual practices within the gay community, I wonder what it will take to make the majority of gays appreciate themselves for their uniqueness, and to bolster their self-esteem.

I'm queer. I'm here. I've related to fundamentalist Christians in politics who have accepted me. The rest of you need to get over your "special-ness" and just get on with your lives. You'll be accepted or not on WHO you are, not WHAT you are. And if you are NOT accepted, so what? America is a big place, and there are now (thankfully) many places for us to go; to live, to work, and to have fun.

What the gay community needs to work on is self-acceptance and better public relations with the rest of society, and to stop militantly pushing themselves in others' faces because we are not sure we are "good enough." Gay narcissists, get over yourselves, and get on with your lives! Think more about how you can give to your community, rather than how much you can make them do for you!